https://bit.ly/3qxPDqj https://bit.ly/3L8BaZK https://bit.ly/3D9nXwT https://bit.ly/3wvVhx3 https://bit.ly/3NizfUp https://bit.ly/36rnz0X https://bit.ly/3ICJzmv Take the Taken In Hand tour Have you seen the following articles? Is there consent? What easy-to-say word gives every lover pleasure? Safewords The erotic power of unshackled male dominance When rape is a gift The resistant woman Give new love a chance Learning the ropes The soothing effect of vowing to obey Laying the groundwork for other possibilities 2004 Dec 31 - 10:34 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article | permanent link 20 years I'm really glad that you and your husband are so happy. My husband and I had been together for 22 years (on and off), before we got around to this kind of relationship . It has made a big difference to our lives too. Speaking for myself, though, the spanking is not the crux of the matter, since that was something we had been doing anyway. I mean, my husband had been spanking me all that time without it making me happier, sweeter, or more obedient (except on a very temporary basis). This is why I am slightly surprised by articles that suggest that spanking a woman can make an enormous difference to her attitude etc, because this was not the case with me. It required a sort of mental adjustment that was about more than spanking, since that was something we were doing anyway. I think you are probably wise though not to shout out about the glories of a Taken In Hand relationship to newly married couples, better to keep it to yourself, "an illicit pleasure" as Confused of Home Counties says.